The UK Government’s recent announcement that social media platforms will be banned from providing services to children under the age of 16 has been described as a landmark moment in child protection. The measures, due to come into force from Spring 2027, aim to tackle growing concerns around the impact of social media on children’s mental health, wellbeing, safety and development.

As a family law practitioner, I regularly see the challenges that modern technology can bring to family life. While social media has undoubtedly transformed the way we communicate, it has also introduced pressures and risks that many children simply are not equipped to navigate.

A Long Overdue Conversation

For years, parents, teachers and child welfare organisations have raised concerns about the effects of social media on young people. From cyberbullying and online exploitation to unrealistic body image standards, addictive algorithms and exposure to harmful content, the digital world can often place significant demands on developing minds.

The Government has stated that the purpose of the new legislation is to “give kids their childhood back” by creating healthier boundaries between childhood and the online world. Under the proposed measures, social media platforms will be required to prevent under-16s from accessing their services, while allowing children to continue using the internet for education, news, gaming and communication with family and friends.

Why This Matters for Families

Many parents have found themselves in an impossible position. They want to protect their children from the risks associated with social media, but they also worry about their child being excluded from peer groups if they are the only one without access.

By introducing a nationwide standard, the Government may remove some of that pressure from parents. Instead of individual families having to set boundaries alone, a clear legal framework creates a level playing field for everyone.

This change also provides an opportunity for families to reconnect with activities that support healthy development – spending time outdoors, participating in sports, building friendships face-to-face and developing confidence away from screens.

The Family Law Perspective

Children’s welfare has always been at the heart of family law. Whether dealing with arrangements for children following separation, issues surrounding parental responsibility, or concerns regarding a child’s wellbeing, the focus remains the same: what is in the child’s best interests?

The growing evidence around excessive social media use has prompted many professionals to question whether unrestricted access is compatible with those best interests. While the new measures are not a complete solution, they represent a significant step towards creating a safer environment for children.

Of course, legislation alone cannot replace parental guidance, education and open communication. Children will still need support to develop healthy relationships with technology as they grow.

Giving Children a Chance to Be Children Again

The Government’s announcement has sparked debate, and there will undoubtedly be challenges around enforcement and implementation. However, the central message resonates with many parents and professionals alike.

Childhood should be a time for learning, exploring, building relationships and developing resilience in the real world. If these new measures help reduce some of the pressures and harms associated with social media, they may offer future generations something increasingly precious:

The chance to simply be children again.

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If you require advice regarding any family law matter involving children, parental responsibility, contact arrangements or child welfare issues, Michelle Crilly Family Law is here to help with practical, compassionate and expert guidance.

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Experiencing harassment, intimidation, threats, or abuse from a partner, former partner, or family member can be incredibly distressing. In situations where someone feels unsafe or vulnerable, legal protection may be available through a Non-Molestation Order.

A Non-Molestation Order is designed to protect individuals and children from abuse or threatening behaviour and can provide immediate legal safeguards where necessary.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we support clients across Northern Ireland with compassionate, confidential, and practical legal advice during what is often an extremely difficult time.

What Is a Non-Molestation Order?

A Non-Molestation Order is a court order that prevents someone from:

• Using or threatening violence
• Harassing, intimidating, or pestering another person
• Contacting someone directly or indirectly
• Attending a person’s home or workplace
• Engaging in abusive or controlling behaviour

The order is intended to provide protection and peace of mind for individuals experiencing domestic abuse or fear of harm.

Importantly, abuse is not limited to physical violence. The courts recognise that emotional, psychological, verbal, coercive, and controlling behaviour can also have a serious impact.

Who Can Apply for a Non-Molestation Order?

You may be eligible to apply if the person causing harm is:

• A current or former spouse
• A partner or ex-partner
• A family member
• Someone you live or have lived with
• The parent of your child

The court must be satisfied that protection is necessary for your safety and wellbeing.

What Behaviour Can a Non-Molestation Order Prevent?

Every order is tailored to the specific circumstances of the case, but common restrictions may include preventing someone from:

• Contacting you by phone, text, email, or social media
• Coming near your home, workplace, or children’s school
• Threatening or intimidating you
• Encouraging others to harass or contact you
• Using abusive language or behaviour

The court can also extend protection to children if required.

Can You Apply Urgently?

Yes.

In urgent situations, it may be possible to apply for an emergency order without the other person being present in court initially. This is known as a without notice application.

The court will consider whether there is an immediate risk of harm before granting temporary protection.

What Happens If the Order Is Breached?

Breaching a Non-Molestation Order is a serious matter and can be a criminal offence.

If the order is breached, the police can become involved and the person responsible may face arrest, criminal charges, fines, or imprisonment.

This legal protection is intended to provide reassurance and immediate action where necessary.

How Long Does a Non-Molestation Order Last?

The length of an order depends on the circumstances of the case. Some orders may last for several months, while others can remain in place longer if ongoing protection is needed.

The court may review or extend an order where appropriate.

Do You Need a Solicitor?

While it is possible to apply without legal representation, obtaining advice from a family law solicitor can help ensure the application is prepared correctly and that your safety concerns are clearly presented to the court.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we understand how sensitive and emotional these situations can be. We provide supportive, confidential guidance to help clients secure the protection they need and understand the legal process every step of the way.

If you need advice regarding a Non-Molestation Order or any aspect of family law in Northern Ireland, our team is here to help.

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Grandparents often play a hugely important role in a child’s life, providing love, stability, support, and care. However, following a family breakdown or dispute, some grandparents may suddenly find themselves cut off from seeing their grandchildren.

This can be an incredibly upsetting and emotional experience for everyone involved — especially the children.

In Northern Ireland, grandparents do not have automatic legal rights to contact with their grandchildren. However, there are legal options available where maintaining that relationship is in the child’s best interests.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we regularly advise grandparents on their legal position and support families in finding practical solutions wherever possible.

Do Grandparents Have Automatic Rights?

No.

Unlike parents, grandparents do not automatically have parental responsibility or an automatic right to spend time with a grandchild under Northern Ireland law.

However, the courts recognise the valuable role grandparents can play in a child’s life and will consider whether ongoing contact benefits the child’s wellbeing.

Can Grandparents Apply to Court?

Yes.

If informal arrangements cannot be agreed, grandparents can apply to the court for permission to seek a Child Arrangements Order (previously known as Contact or Residence Orders).

The court will first decide whether granting permission to apply is appropriate. In many cases, if a grandparent has had a meaningful and established relationship with the child, permission is likely to be granted.

What Does the Court Consider?

The child’s welfare is always the court’s main priority.

When considering an application, the court may look at:

• The existing relationship between the grandparent and child
• The reasons contact has stopped
• The child’s emotional and physical needs
• Whether contact would benefit the child
• Any history of family conflict or safeguarding concerns
• The potential impact on the child’s routine and stability

The court will focus on what arrangement is in the child’s best interests rather than the wishes of the adults involved.

What Types of Contact Can Be Arranged?

Every family situation is different, and arrangements can vary depending on the circumstances.

Contact may include:

• Regular visits
• Telephone or video calls
• Letters, cards, or messages
• Overnight stays
• Spending time during holidays or special occasions

In some cases, gradual contact arrangements may be introduced to help rebuild relationships.

Is Court Always Necessary?

Not always.

Many families are encouraged to resolve matters through communication, solicitor negotiation, or mediation before court proceedings begin. Reaching an agreement outside court can often reduce stress and preserve family relationships.

However, where communication has broken down completely or contact is being unfairly refused, court intervention may be necessary.

What If There Are Concerns About the Child’s Welfare?

If there are allegations of abuse, neglect, or other safeguarding concerns, the court will carefully investigate before making any decisions.

The safety and wellbeing of the child will always come first.Seeking Legal Advice

Disputes involving grandchildren can be emotionally challenging and sensitive for everyone involved. Understanding your legal position early can help you decide the best course of action.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we provide compassionate and practical advice to grandparents and family members dealing with child contact issues across Northern Ireland.

If you are struggling to maintain contact with your grandchild or would like advice on your legal options, our team is here to help.

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Recent developments from the Law Society of Northern Ireland highlight an important and long-overdue conversation within the legal profession — the need to ensure that solicitors and their staff are able to work in a safe, respectful environment.

The launch of the Solicitor Safety Toolkit follows research showing that a significant number of legal professionals have experienced some form of threatening or abusive behaviour in the course of their work. This initiative is a positive step towards raising awareness and promoting healthier, more constructive interactions between clients and legal professionals.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we are committed to providing a supportive, professional, and approachable service to all of our clients. Family law matters can often involve highly emotional and sensitive situations, and we understand the pressures that individuals and families may be under during these times.

Our priority is always to guide clients through these challenges with empathy, clarity, and respect.

In return, we believe that maintaining a respectful and constructive working relationship is essential to achieving the best possible outcomes. Open communication and mutual respect allow us to focus on what matters most — supporting our clients effectively and helping them move forward.

We welcome the Law Society’s efforts to promote awareness and provide guidance across the profession, and we remain committed to upholding these standards in our practice.

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International Women’s Day offers an opportunity to reflect on the progress made by women across all professions and to recognise those who continue to shape the future. In the legal profession in Northern Ireland, women have made significant strides over the past decades, moving into leadership positions, shaping public policy, and championing justice across our courts and institutions.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we are proud to work within a profession where women are increasingly visible in positions of influence and authority. From the courtroom to the judiciary, women across Northern Ireland are helping to redefine what leadership in law looks like.

Below are just a few of the remarkable women who have played an important role in shaping the legal landscape.

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Lady Chief Justice Dame Siobhan Keegan

Appointed as Attorney General for Northern Ireland in 2020, Siobhan Keegan became the first woman to hold the role since the office was re-established in 2010. As the chief legal adviser to the Northern Ireland Executive, her work influences significant constitutional and public law matters.

Her career has included senior leadership within the legal profession and extensive experience in public law. Her appointment marked an important milestone, demonstrating the growing presence of women in the most senior legal advisory roles in Northern Ireland.

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Brigid Napier

Brigid Napier has built a respected career as a solicitor and leader within the profession. She previously served as President of the Law Society of Northern Ireland, representing solicitors across the jurisdiction and advocating for professional standards and legal reform.

Her work has contributed to strengthening the voice of solicitors within the legal system while encouraging greater diversity within the profession.

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Closer to home, Michelle Crilly continues to play an important role within the legal profession through her work in family law. Family law requires not only legal expertise but also empathy, understanding and the ability to guide clients through some of the most difficult periods of their lives.

Through her practice, Michelle works closely with families across Northern Ireland, providing clear legal advice and compassionate support on matters such as divorce, financial settlements, and arrangements for children.

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The Changing Face of the Legal Profession

The legal profession in Northern Ireland has changed significantly over the past generation. Women now make up a substantial proportion of law graduates and practising solicitors, and increasingly hold senior positions across law firms, the Bar, the judiciary and public office.

While challenges remain, the progress achieved demonstrates the importance of visibility, mentorship and leadership in supporting the next generation of female lawyers.

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Looking Forward

International Women’s Day is not only about celebrating achievements, but also about encouraging continued progress. The women highlighted above represent just a small number of the many talented female lawyers contributing to the justice system in Northern Ireland.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we recognise the importance of strong female voices within the profession and remain committed to supporting fairness, representation and opportunity within the legal community.

As more women enter and lead within the legal field, the future of the profession continues to grow stronger.

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Ending a marriage is rarely just a legal decision-it often comes with emotional strain, financial concerns, and uncertainty about the future. One of the most common sources of stress is simply not knowing how the divorce process works. 

In Northern Ireland, divorce follows a structured legal framework. While every family situation is different, understanding the key stages can remove much of the anxiety surrounding the procedure. 

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When Can You Apply for Divorce? 

Before initiating divorce proceedings, the law requires that you demonstrate your marriage has irretrievably broken down. This is not about assigning blame – it is about establishing that the relationship cannot be repaired. 

In Northern Ireland, this is typically shown through one of the following circumstances: 

• Separation for two years with consent 

• Separation for five years (consent not required) 

• Unreasonable behaviour 

• Adultery 

• Desertion 

The appropriate ground will depend on your individual circumstances, living arrangements, and available evidence. 

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Starting the Legal Process 

Divorce proceedings formally begin when one spouse submits a divorce petition to the court. 

This document outlines: 

Supporting documentation is required, most notably your original marriage certificate. Once the court processes the application, the petition is issued and must be formally served on the other spouse.

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Serving the Papers & Response 

The other spouse (known legally as the respondent) is given the opportunity to reply. 

At this stage, they may: 

Acknowledge the proceedings 

• Indicate agreement 

• Choose to contest the divorce 

Most divorces proceed undefended, meaning there is no dispute over the divorce itself, even if financial or parenting matters remain unresolved.

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The Decree Nisi Stage 

A Decree Nisi is effectively the court’s confirmation that the legal requirements for divorce have been 

met. 

It does not end the marriage. Instead, it represents the court’s provisional approval of the divorce. In many cases, this stage proceeds without the need for a full court hearing.

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Finalising the Divorce – Decree Absolute 

After a mandatory waiting period (typically six weeks and one day), the petitioner may apply for the Decree Absolute. 

This is the order that legally ends the marriage. Only at this point are you formally divorced.

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Financial Matters & Divorce 

One of the most misunderstood aspects of divorce is that financial arrangements are separate from the divorce itself. 

Divorce does not automatically resolve: 

• Property ownership 

• Savings and pensions 

• Debts 

• Maintenance 

If financial issues are not agreed voluntarily, either party may apply for financial relief through the court. 

Importantly, many solicitors advise resolving financial matters before obtaining the Decree Absolute, as legal rights can be affected once the marriage is formally dissolved. 

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Arrangements for Children 

Similarly, divorce proceedings do not automatically determine: 

• Residence 

• Contact 

• Parental responsibilities  where parents cannot agree, the court may intervene to make decisions based on the best interests of the child.

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How Long Does Divorce Take? 

There is no universal timeline. 

An uncontested divorce with straightforward finances may conclude relatively quickly. Cases involving disputes – particularly around assets or children- naturally take longer. 

Why Legal Advice Matters 

Divorce is not simply paperwork – it involves long-term financial rights, parental responsibilities, and legal protections. 

Professional legal guidance helps ensure:  

• Correct grounds are relied upon 

• Documents are properly prepared 

• Financial rights are protected 

• Avoidable delays are prevented 

Moving Forward with Clarity 

While divorce can feel overwhelming, understanding the structure of the process can make it far more manageable. With appropriate advice, many people find the legal journey far less intimidating than expected. 

If you need guidance specific to your situation, Michelle Crilly Family Law can provide clear, practical advice tailored to your circumstances. 

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If you would like advice on divorce, child arrangements or any family law matter over the Christmas period, the team at Michelle Crilly Family Law is ready to support you with compassion, discretion and expertise.

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The Christmas period is often portrayed as a time of joy, family connection and celebration. But for many individuals who are navigating divorce or separation, it can instead feel overwhelming, emotionally complex and financially stressful. At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we understand that the festive season can magnify tensions, highlight unresolved issues, and leave you unsure about your rights or the best next steps to take.

Below is practical guidance to help you manage the holiday period with clarity, stability and compassion — both for yourself and any children involved.

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1. Acknowledge That It’s a Difficult Time

Divorce brings significant change, and those emotions don’t pause simply because it’s Christmas. Guilt, sadness, anger or uncertainty are all normal. Giving yourself permission to feel them is the first step to navigating the season more calmly.

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2. Put the Children’s Needs First

For separated parents, Christmas arrangements can be one of the biggest sources of stress. While every family is different, keeping the focus on what is best for the children will help guide decisions.

Consider:

• Creating a clear contact schedule in advance
• Agreeing collection and drop-off times early
• Maintaining familiar routines where possible
• Reassuring children that they can enjoy Christmas with both sides of the family

If you are struggling to reach agreement, legal advice or mediation can help prevent unnecessary conflict.

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3. Plan Ahead to Reduce Stress

The holiday period can intensify everyday worries — finances, logistics, and communication between former partners. Planning early can reduce last-minute pressure.

This may include:

• Budgeting for gifts and holiday expenses
• Setting boundaries around communication
• Confirming arrangements for childcare, travel or shared celebrations
• Avoiding conversations that could escalate during the festivities

Good preparation gives you more space to prioritise peace of mind.

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4. Be Realistic With Expectations

Christmas can come with pressure to create the “perfect” day. But during a divorce, simplicity is often healthier. Scale things back where needed, lean on supportive friends and family, and remember that your emotional wellbeing matters just as much as the traditional holiday plans.

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5. Seek Support — You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

Whether you need legal clarity, emotional support or practical guidance, reaching out is an important step. The festive season can be isolating, but you’re not on your own.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we can advise on:

• Divorce and separation
• Child contact arrangements
• Financial settlement
• Domestic abuse issues
• Urgent matters requiring court intervention

Our goal is to help you move through this time with confidence, dignity and a clear understanding of your rights.

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6. Prioritise Your Own Wellbeing

Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish — it’s essential. Consider:

• Taking breaks when the day feels emotionally heavy
• Setting boundaries with people who increase stress
• Keeping routines such as exercise, fresh air or quiet time
• Talking to a counsellor or trusted friend

Small, private moments of care can make the season more manageable.

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7. Remember That January Brings New Beginnings

Many people use the New Year as a fresh start. If you are considering separation, need clarity on your legal position, or want to finalise arrangements for 2025, January can be an ideal time to make progress.

You deserve a future that feels stable, secure and hopeful — and we are here to guide you towards it.

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If you would like advice on divorce, child arrangements or any family law matter over the Christmas period, the team at Michelle Crilly Family Law is ready to support you with compassion, discretion and expertise.

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At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we understand that reaching out to a solicitor often comes during a stressful or uncertain time. Whether you’re facing a separation, dealing with child arrangements, or navigating financial concerns, having the right information can make all the difference.

Here are five of the most common questions our clients ask — and the clear, practical answers we give every day.

Do I need a solicitor to get a divorce?

While it’s possible to file for divorce yourself, having a solicitor ensures the process runs smoothly and that your financial and parental arrangements are handled correctly. Divorce is not just about ending a marriage — it’s about securing your future. We guide clients through the paperwork, timelines, and financial settlements, ensuring nothing is overlooked.

How are assets divided after separation?

There’s no automatic 50/50 rule, but fairness is the goal. The court considers factors such as income, property, pensions, and the needs of any children. At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we work to achieve a balanced agreement — whether through negotiation, mediation, or court representation — so that you can move forward with stability and peace of mind.

Who decides where the children live?

If parents can’t agree on arrangements, the court’s priority will always be the best interests of the child. This may involve considering factors such as age, schooling, and the relationship with each parent. Our approach is child-centred — we encourage cooperation between parents and provide firm, compassionate representation when needed.

How much will it cost?

We know that legal costs are a key concern. That’s why we’re upfront about fees from the very beginning. We offer transparent pricing, flexible payment options, and a clear breakdown of costs — no surprises. Every client deserves quality legal support that’s both professional and accessible.

Here to Help You Move Forward

Every family situation is unique, but one thing remains constant: our commitment to supporting you with expertise, empathy, and discretion.

If you have questions about divorce, separation, child arrangements, or any aspect of family law, contact Michelle Crilly Family Law today — we’re here to listen and to help.

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Domestic abuse can take many forms — physical, emotional, financial, or psychological. It can happen in any relationship, regardless of age, gender, or background. Recognising that what you’re experiencing is abuse is often the first, and hardest, step. The next is knowing that you are protected by law, and that help is available.

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we understand that leaving an abusive relationship or taking legal action can feel overwhelming. This article explains your key legal protections and the practical steps you can take to safeguard yourself and your family.

What the Law Says

In Northern Ireland, the law recognises that domestic abuse isn’t limited to physical violence. Under the Domestic Abuse and Civil Proceedings Act (Northern Ireland) 2021, abuse includes:

• Controlling or coercive behaviour
• Threats and intimidation
• Financial control
• Emotional or psychological harm

This law ensures that patterns of abusive behaviour — not just isolated incidents — are taken seriously, and perpetrators can face criminal charges.

Protective Court Orders

If you’re in immediate danger or need legal protection, you may be able to apply for one or more of the following court orders:

1. Non-Molestation Order

A Non-Molestation Order is designed to protect you (and any children) from harassment, threats, or violence. It can prohibit your abuser from:

• Coming near your home or workplace
• Contacting you directly or indirectly
• Using or threatening violence against you

This order can be granted quickly in urgent cases, often without the other party being notified initially.

2. Occupation Order

An Occupation Order determines who can live in the family home. It can:

• Exclude the abusive partner from the property
• Set out who has the right to stay in the home
• Offer you breathing space to make longer-term arrangements

These orders can last for a set period or be extended if the court believes you’re still at risk.

Emergency Help

If you are in immediate danger, always call 999.
Police in Northern Ireland are trained to handle domestic abuse sensitively and can take steps to protect you right away.

You can also contact:

• Women’s Aid NI – 24/7 support and refuge services
• The Domestic and Sexual Abuse Helpline – 0808 802 1414
• Men’s Advisory Project NI – confidential support for men experiencing abuse

How We Can Help

At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we provide confidential, compassionate, and practical legal advice to help you move forward safely.
We can assist you in:

• Applying for emergency protection orders
• Liaising with the police or other agencies
• Addressing child custody and financial matters in abusive situations

Every case is handled with the utmost sensitivity and discretion. You are not alone — we will help you navigate the legal process and take back control of your life.

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If you are experiencing domestic abuse or are worried for someone you love, please reach out.
Contact Michelle Crilly Family Law in confidence to discuss your options and get the protection you deserve.

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Going through a separation is one of life’s most challenging experiences, and the financial implications can feel overwhelming. At Michelle Crilly Family Law, we understand that protecting your financial security during this difficult time is crucial for your future wellbeing and that of your children.

Take Immediate Steps to Safeguard Your Assets

The moment you decide to separate, it’s essential to take proactive steps to protect your financial position. Start by gathering all important financial documents including bank statements, mortgage papers, pension statements, insurance policies, and tax returns from the past three years. Create copies and store them securely, as you’ll need these for any financial settlement discussions.

Understand Your Joint Financial Commitments

Make a comprehensive list of all joint debts, mortgages, credit cards, and ongoing financial commitments. Contact your mortgage lender and other creditors to inform them of your separation, and seek advice about how to manage these obligations going forward. Remember that you remain jointly liable for joint debts regardless of who agreed to pay them in any temporary arrangement.

If you have joint credit cards, consider whether these should be cancelled or frozen to prevent your ex-partner from running up additional debt that you could be held responsible for. However, be mindful that closing accounts can affect your credit rating, so seek professional advice before taking action.

Plan for Your Immediate Financial Needs

Separation often means transitioning from a two-income household to managing on one income, which can be a significant adjustment. Create a realistic budget that reflects your new circumstances, including housing costs, utilities, food, transport, and childcare if applicable.

If you’re struggling to meet immediate expenses, explore what financial support might be available to you. This could include benefits, tax credits, or maintenance from your ex-partner. Don’t be afraid to ask for help during this transition period – there are support systems designed to assist people in your situation.

Consider the Family Home

The family home is often the most valuable asset in a marriage, and decisions about what happens to it can have long-term financial implications. Whether you stay in the property, sell it, or transfer ownership will depend on various factors including your financial resources, childcare arrangements, and long-term housing needs.

If you’re staying in the family home temporarily, understand that this doesn’t automatically mean you’ll keep it permanently. Conversely, leaving the property doesn’t mean you’ve given up your legal rights to it. These are complex decisions that should be made with proper legal and financial advice.

Pension Rights and Long-term Security

Pensions are often overlooked during separation, but they can represent a significant portion of a couple’s wealth. You may have rights to a share of your ex-partner’s pension, or they may have rights to yours. Pension sharing orders can be made as part of financial proceedings, allowing you to receive a portion of your ex-partner’s pension as your own asset.

Don’t neglect your own pension contributions during separation proceedings. While money may be tight, maintaining contributions to your retirement fund is important for your long-term financial security.

Seek Professional Advice Early

While it may seem like an additional expense during an already costly time, seeking professional legal and financial advice early in the separation process can save you money and stress in the long run. A qualified family lawyer can help you understand your rights and options, while a financial advisor can help you plan for your future financial needs.

Protect Yourself from Financial Abuse

Financial abuse is more common than many people realise and can continue or even escalate during separation. This might include hiding assets, running up debts in your name, or preventing you from accessing money you’re entitled to. If you suspect financial abuse, seek immediate legal advice about protective measures such as freezing accounts or seeking court orders.

Keep detailed records of any financial abuse or suspicious activity, as this evidence may be important in legal proceedings. Don’t suffer in silence – there are legal remedies available to protect you and your financial interests.

Moving Forward with Confidence

While separation inevitably brings financial challenges, taking proactive steps to protect your interests can help ensure you emerge from the process in the strongest possible position. Remember that financial settlements don’t have to be decided immediately, and you have time to seek advice and consider your options carefully.

The key is to stay informed, seek professional guidance when needed, and make decisions based on your long-term financial security rather than short-term emotions. With the right support and advice, you can navigate this difficult time and build a secure financial future for yourself and your family.

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